How to stop waiting to be rescued and start stepping into your own power.
In coaching women from all walks of life, no matter if she is 27 or 57 or anywhere in between, what I’ve found interesting is that most women come to me with some form of wounded maiden tendencies.
Why is this especially important to recognize right now?
Because we need every woman to heal her wounded maiden so that she can step into her full power, the mature feminine.
Our patriarchal society is revealing cracks in the foundation. They want us to stay wounded, to stay scared, to stay quiet, to stay subservient, and to be oh so pretty while doing it.
Because wounded maidens feed the patriarchy, the mature feminine is a threat.
Look around at our country right now, at our world. NOW is the time to heal and embody our mature feminine. It’s time to step into our own power and restore balance in our toxic masculine society.
The Wounded Maiden
She is mostly concerned with how her life looks.
The wounded maiden presents immature traits such as insecurity, neediness, vanity, and clinging to external validation to feel good. Most likely she acts from a fear of scarcity. She expects to be rescued by someone else and is constantly disappointed when that doesn’t happen. Because the truth is, no one can rescue you except for YOU. And it requires going inward, which is not always comfortable.
Think of old-school Disney movies such as Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, and Snow White. The main characters were all wounded maidens, needing Prince Charming to rescue them and ride off into the sunset without any worries.
Unfortunately, this is the message that most of us received as little girls.
The Mature Feminine
She lives her life by how it feels.
The mature feminine is secure in herself, she is guided by her intuition and not by anyone or anything outside of her, she is confident, authentic, and responsive instead of reactive. She is self-sourced and aware of her power.
She has met her own darkness, embraced it, and has learned how to rescue herself.
Think of the modern heroines in Disney movies — Moana, Elsa, and Mirabel. They each learned to turn their “flaws” into divine gifts that ultimately made them great leaders. They healed their inner wounded maidens.
The Importance of Rites of Passage
One missing link between the wounded maiden and the mature feminine is participating in rites of passage. A rite of passage is a spiritual practice or ritual that helps a woman transition into the next phase of her life.
One example of a rite of passage is when a girl menstruates for the first time. In our society, she’s most likely handed some pads and Tylenol in hushed transactions. She is not loudly celebrated for shedding her girlhood and becoming a woman.
You might be a woman who’s been menstruating for decades, but it doesn’t mean you can’t create your own rites of passage. Find rituals that help you embody your own mature feminine.
The Inner Work
Stepping into your mature feminine takes uncomfortable, deep, often isolating inner work. Here’s how to begin:
- Identify and acknowledge your greatest wound. Maybe it’s fear of rejection, abandonment, or scarcity.
- Honor that wound. Go into the dark, own that part, and love that part.
- Then step up and do the things — different practices, habits, and rituals to embody the woman you’re meant to be. Evolve your spirit in some form of a ritual.
- Learn to ask for help. No woman does this entirely on her own.
To become the mature feminine, you must move from a life based on how things look to how things feel.
One way to find support is to join us at the Medicine Within Retreat. You will be guided by coaches and healers as we help women like you learn how to become safe in your emotional body. You will walk away with a whole new toolbox so that you will be self-sourced, and no longer seeking external validation.
We need more healed, mature feminine women to step up to the plate to raise the next generation of women. It’s never too late to step into the mature feminine. You’re never too late to live from your mature feminine essence.