When’s the last time you had a sex date?
Either with yourself or with a partner?
And I’m not talking about wham, bam, thank you ma’am sex. Or sex under an influence (i.e. using alcohol, drugs, or pornography as a stimulus.)
I’m talking about deep, passionate, orgasmic sex that can go on for hours, uninhibited by any outside influences.
Wow – I’m being a little bold today, eh?
But I really do want you to think about this question because it ultimately aligns with how well you are taking care of yourself. Let me explain.
Think of yourself as a cup, wine glass…Nalgene bottle…whatever helps you visualize here. How often are you pouring yourself out daily? To your work, to your family, to your friends, and beyond? You are giving and pouring out your energy all day, every day.
Now, what amount of time in your day are you filling that glass back up with nourishment? With cool, refreshing, nourishing energy that fuels you to be at your prime for yourself and the ones you love?
If the answer is “not a lot” or “what does it even mean to fill my cup up?” then you’re likely living your life on an empty tank, a depleted well, and it follows, that your sex life is probably suffering as well.
Self-Care Can Boost Your Sex Life
You can improve your sexual desire and sexual encounters – whether with yourself or a partner – by making yourself a priority. It may seem selfish or uncomfortable to change your habits and begin to carve out time just for you during the day, but it’s essential to improving your mind, body and soul wellbeing.
And when your mind, body, and soul are being taken care of, you become happier and more confident which in turn opens the floodgates for your sexual confidence and desires to flow throughout your body. It’s really a simple equation.
The hardest part of the equation is knowing how to even start new self-care routines.
But it’s worth the exploration.
Studies show that people who have sexual confidence and believe they are worthy of being desired heal from illness faster, live longer, and enjoy overall better levels of well-being and happiness.
When you take care of yourself – mentally and physically – the more you are able to give sexually to your partner without a stimulant that numbs you down to simply get “through it.”
The glorious part about all of this is that the equation works BOTH ways.
Better sex also equals self-care.
I’m not just talking about partnered sex either.
Consider yourself lucky if you have a partner that is committed to self-care as well as sexual intimacy that includes open communication of each other’s wants and needs. I mean, that’s amazing! But in the event that you are embarking on your wellness goals without a partner, YOU are all you need.
Masturbation has been proved to aid in well-being.
That’s right, masturbation.
Planned Parenthood’s website lists masturbation’s many benefits including improving relationships and sexual satisfaction, improving sleep, increasing self-esteem, improving body image and reducing stress. It can even relieve menstrual cramps, strengthen pelvic muscles.
You might have caught some of my Instagram stories about my morning routine. I’m not shy about sharing that masturbation is part of my morning rituals. I am also currently taking an 8-week course by Kim Anami called, “The Well-F**ked Woman,” to better tap into my own sexual energy as a source of power and pleasure.
I will not shy away from this topic as a source of health and wellness and you should face it head-on as well.
Fill Your Cup
It is my passion and life-purpose to help you take radical responsibility for your health and wellness. Self-care is a key ingredient in the EpicLuv formula and, it turns out, is a key ingredient to bettering your sex life as well.
The more radical responsibility you take for your self-care, the better your sex will be.
Healthy Epic Hugs,